ARE YOU A VICTIM OR A VICTOR?
Limit complaining and blaming people, and embrace gratitude
In a world where success is paramount to living a purposeful fulfilling life, some people tend to play the victim instead of adopting a victor mindset. Zig Ziglar once said"Your attitude will determine your altitude" meaning that when you have a victim attitude, it can be difficult to achieve success in life. On the other hand, having a victor mindset attracts success.
Victims often see life as unfair to them and frequently blame external factors for their misery. They don't take responsibility for their actions, behaviors, and lives.
They allow people to determine their lives without taking the necessary actions required of them to achieve the optimum success they desire in life.
Let's take for instance the case of Zainab who lost her job unexpectedly. Initially, Zainab felt devastated and helpless, considering herself a victim of circumstances. She kept dwelling on the negative factors of the situation, blaming others and feeling sorry for herself.
However, after some time, Zainab eventually realizes that she has a choice in how she responds to the setbacks in her life rather than reacting impulsively to every unfavorable circumstance she encounters. She decided to adopt a Victor mindset and take proactive steps to turn her situation around.
Zainab started by updating her resume, networking with contacts, and exploring new job opportunities.
Despite facing rejections and setbacks along the way, she remained resilient and determined. She attended workshops to enhance her skills, sought guidance from mentors, and maintained a positive attitude.
Eventually, Zainab secured a new job that not only matched her qualifications but also offered better prospects and job satisfaction than her previous position.
Through her journey, Zainab transforms from being a victim of job loss to a victor who took control of her circumstances and created a positive outcome.
Zainab's story serves as an inspiration to others facing similar challenges of having a victim mindset. It also evinces that you can overcome any adversity and emerge as a victor in your life.
I understand it might not be easy to change from such a mindset and that is why I will be sharing five practical tips you can start imbibing to eliminate such a mindset.
PRACTICING GRATITUDE; Limit complaining and blaming people, and embrace gratitude as this will allow you to always see the positive part of the bad occurrences in your life.
CELEBRATE OTHER PEOPLE'S WINS; Instead of being jealous of your colleague's or friends' success, learn to appreciate and applaud others and avoid wallowing in self-pity.
ASKING THE RIGHT QUESTIONS; Whenever you experience any difficult situation, endeavor to always ask the right questions, this will allow you to see the positive and lessons in every situation. Rather than saying why is this always happening to me?
Say; what are these difficult moments trying to teach me?
RECOGNIZE THAT LIFE ISN'T FAIR TO ANYONE; Dark times occur in our lives for us to be able to appreciate the beautiful moments and remember every cloud has a silver lining. Eliminate the mindset that you are the only one experiencing bad phases in your life because everybody experiences those dark moments. Victor thinks of how to approach and manage those moments. They don't wait for the solution to arrive or for someone to rescue them but they create the solution themselves.
BE OPTIMISTIC IN EVERY SITUATION YOU FIND YOURSELF IN; Always see the positive side of things, quit having a negative mindset, and develop a positive mindset.
In conclusion, having a victim mindset will limit you from reaching your fullest potential and hinder your success as it involves blaming external factors which can also diminish your self-confidence and ability to take responsibility for life and actions.
On the other hand, a victor mindset creates a
solutions by developing skills that will improve their attitude and situation to attract success.
It's never too late to develop a victor mindset if you observe or acknowledge that you have it.
Written; Masturah Sulyamãn