Erectile Dysfunction
I understand the pressure to perform if you are a man, and honestly, no man likes it when his wife complains of him not being able to pound her well which might make his wife start seeking advice from
Before I start casting stones, Aunty Doyin must not know that I wrote about her husband. In fact, I'm sure she’d be more surprised that my first publication on my substack concerning health is about him, and less about the fact that her husband's condition is pitiable.
Nawa o. How old is Aunty Doyin's husband that just a month after their wedding, his chairman is failing, just the way a mango fruit falls during heavy rainfall? Even a strong nineteen-year-old Alade's chairman still dey stand well.
Who is Aunty Doyin's husband? That's a story for another day but both the wife and husband live in my street, somewhere inside the trenches of Atikankan right here in Ekiti. You see, Aunty Doyin's husband takes everything his mouth can swallow; from concoctions (agbo) to drugs that Mummy salewa, the quack, road-side chemist sells to him.
In fact, there was a time he once drank something that looked like goat urinal discharge mixed with spoilt chicken eggs. You know how hard and bad it's going to be and how smelly the mixture would look.
So yes, that is who Boda Damola, Aunty Doyin's husband is: a nonchalant man whose penis’ erection half-life is shorter than the pen I use when writing poems.
Now that we have established the persona of today’s discussion, Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is one of the leading problems among couples today.
The sad reality is that once you are above the age of 18 years, you can experience erectile dysfunction. Oya calm down joor. See, 57.4% of Nigerian males have experienced this problem or are experiencing it (national prevalence rate from several independent types of research).
The good news is that erectile dysfunction cannot progress to other physical health problems like diabetes, loss of vision, etc.
But erectile dysfunction if left untreated can twerk into a man’s life and wreak havoc on his mental and emotional well-being.
Research published in the South African Journal of Psychiatry examined the dynamics between ED, marital distress, and depression among males. 62% of those with ED already have extra wahala in their marriages; the mean age for those tested was 45 years; and 176 of all the 678 married men that were tested are battling with ED.
In other published research carried out in different parts of Nigeria, there is an ED prevalence rate of 41.5% and 43.6% in the Niger Delta region and South West region of Nigeria.
If you are suffering from ED, the probability that your marriage will crash is high. Imagine wanting to press your wife at night and the chairman refused to stand up. Fada Lawd. There is a reason she is nagging all the time.
ED is a silent killer for relationships, and it tends to make men lose interest in pursuing one.
Please note that there is a big difference between “premature ejaculation” and “erectile dysfunction”, but you see that Aunty Bisi chemist who went to Federal Polytechnic, finished with a pass, but now practising medicine on the roadside in your area did not know the difference and would most likely sell you things that will never work or work adversely to your health.
In this publication, I’ll focus solely on ED, tell you about the causes, and offer solutions and assistance in helping you overcome them if you're experiencing it.
What exactly is Erectile Dysfunction?
Erectile dysfunction (ED) popularly known as “impotence”, is the inability to achieve or sustain an erection for satisfactory sexual activities. In simpler words, ED is when you have a penis that cannot stay hard and ready for its glorious job for less than the average time of sexual activity.
Let me break it down.
If you have a great penis but after two to five strokes, it has gone flaccid, or during foreplay, your penis did not even stand at all – the thing just stayed limp and lifeless like the dead rat that has eaten poison, then you are definitely suffering from ED.
Erectile dysfunction varies in severity.
Some men have a total inability to achieve an erection (severe ED); others have an inconsistent ability to achieve erections (on and off like the phone that I used sometimes ago, another story for another day) and another group can have an erection but it’ll only last for a brief period. (stand gidigba but it’ll fall after 120 seconds – this is where Aunty Doyin's husband falls in).
The variation makes estimating its frequency difficult for both the person suffering from it and the doctor during diagnosis. This is why you have to be open and tell your doctor everything so that they’ll diagnose you correctly.
While erectile dysfunction can occur at any age, it is quite uncommon among young men and more frequent in the elderly.
By the age of 45, most men have experienced erectile dysfunction at least some of the time they tried having sex. In fact, most of the time they tried having sex outside of their marriage.
Before we can discuss ED, we should first talk about what really is an erection.
What causes an erection?
An erection is the result of increased blood flow into your penis. Blood flow is usually stimulated by either sexual thoughts or direct contact with your penis. When a man becomes sexually excited, the muscles in their penis relax. This relaxation allows for increased blood flow through the penile arteries. This blood fills two chambers inside the penis called the corpora cavernosa. As the chambers fill with blood, the penis grows rigid. Erection ends when the muscles contract and the accumulated blood can flow out through the penile veins.
Let's continue.
ED can occur because of problems at any stage of the erection process. For example, the penile arteries may be too damaged to open properly and allow blood in. Some people have varicose veins in their chairman.
What are the symptoms of erectile dysfunction?
Before I say anything about these symptoms, I want to state it that you should seek medical advice from competent health workers if you are experiencing any of them.
This post is just for informative content and doesn’t mean you shouldn't visit a hospital for a professional diagnosis. That is, if Aunty Doyin's husband should read this post, he should speak with a Urologist. It's important.
Back to the most common symptoms:
Trouble getting an erection, trouble keeping an erection and reduced sexual desire are the major symptoms of erectile dysfunction.
Most sufferers like Aunty Doyin's husband complained that they did not have the required stimuli to cause an erection. That is, despite all the smooches and foreplay, oga penis still refused to stand. This could be a result of hormonal imbalance or other things. It is like despite all efforts of VAR, referees still do ojoro during football matches.
Another category complained of losing erection quickly, majorly within one to four minutes after penetration.
It is worth mentioning a reduction in sexual desires is another symptom. Some men tend to get tired almost too early during sexual intercourse, this feeling tends to knock off the desire for sex, hence, causing erectile dysfunction.
Now, what causes erectile dysfunction?
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Erectile dysfunction has many possible causes, and they can include both emotional and physical disorders. Some common causes are cardiovascular diseases, diabetes, hypertension, hyperlipidemia, damage from cancer or surgery, injuries, obesity or being overweight, increased age, stress, anxiety, relationship problems, extreme drug use, excess alcohol consumption and smoking.
However, having any of the issues listed doesn’t automatically mean you will have ED, they are just most commonly associated with ED.
Erectile dysfunction can be aggravated by one of these factors or several of them combined. That’s why it’s important to work with your doctor so that they can rule out or treat any underlying medical conditions.
Results have shown that those who reported this case early, suffered minimal or no loss at all as it was treated earlier before becoming a major threat to their relationship.
Sugbon if you are forming a strong head and do not seek medical advice quickly, I pity you.
Is there really a way out for ED?
Sure there is, there are several ways specialists such as Urologists and primary health physicians have helped patients overcome erectile dysfunction.
These treatments have proven to solve these cases and in turn help, people have control over their relationships, manage the condition, and in some cases, total cure for ED.
Let your doctor examine you and recommend drugs that will help. One of the reasons accurate information about these conditions is not so common is that people tend to shy away from their doctors.
And some will just look at their doctors and be like; "how will I tell my doctor that my penis no dey do well" Hmmm. Just dey play oo.
When in severe cases, it is the responsibility of your primary health care provider to refer you to a specialist. Yes, referral to a specialist not to one Iya alagbo that sells opa eyin beside your house.
Medications like Viagra, and testosterone (androderm), can stimulate blood flow to your penis. However, these drugs usually have debilitating side effects, especially when you abuse them.
Chewing viagra every time is so dangerous.
I understand the pressure to perform if you are a man, and honestly, no man likes it when his wife complains of him not being able to pound her well which might make his wife start seeking advice from online doctors, you grab na.
Before you take any kind of performance-enhancing drugs, please speak to a medical urologist.
There are legislative orders from appropriate authorities that some particular drugs be taken off the market because their side effects are more dangerous than the fact that people can’t maintain an erection.
There are also natural remedies or homemade remedies that can also help treat erectile dysfunction. However, you should talk to your doctor before trying new ones.
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