It was unexpected but.......

It was a tough decision because she saw me as a younger brother (lol) but I had to persuade her and assure her. The next step was to talk to her parents which were quite easy.

Relationships can be very sweet especially if one gets hooked on the right partner. 

This is a short interview granted by a Brother and father of two. He married early at a Young Age. He's an entrepreneur. He'll be discussing with us his Marital journey and the challenges so far. Sit down,  relax, and enjoy.

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Kaatib: Salaamualaykum warahmatullah wabarakaatuh can I meet you, please?

A: Walaykum salaam warahmatullah wabarakaatuh. I am Faaiz Muhammad Awwal, The third child of seven children. I am a practising Muslim, entrepreneur, Husband, and Dad of Two.

K: Wow Maa Sha Allah. Can you please shed more light on your marital life?

A: Yeah. I got married at the age of eighteen and my wife was twenty years old then due to some circumstances beyond my control though I thank God it's been a blessing for me. Getting married at eighteen wasn't something I look forward to during my younger years but while growing up, I realized that my sexual urge is somehow high so I discussed it with my Dad who gave me some fears and made sure I don't get in a tangle or stay with a non-mahram in a secluded place. But as Allah would have it, I met my wife a year after secondary school and the rest they say is history.

K: how did you meet your wife and what was her reaction when you told her you wanted to get married to her?

A: I met her at the Bank when I went to do some stuff. I admired her and told myself I'll get her. She was beautiful and well dressed though I was taller than her, luckily for me, she was at the same counter as I am so it was easy to exchange contact with her and from there we got talking. It was later on, that I discovered she is far older than me but does love care about age?? 

When I told my Dad about told her, He told me to tell her to come and see him. I don't know what the two of them said but I believe it was my Dad that triggered the marriage stuff. Aaishah who's now my wife called me later that day and asked me a series of questions as regards my sexual urge.

I told her I'll be very glad if we can get married because I don't believe there is a cure for high sexual urges aside from marriage and fasting. it was a tough decision because she saw me as a younger brother (lol) but I had to persuade her and assure her. The next step was to talk to her parents which were quite easy. My Dad through his influence established me in a business and Alhamdulillah the business is booming. 

K: Hmm, wow! So what have been the challenges so far and how have you been able to manage them?

A: well, Alhamdulillah, I won't say I'm capable but I'll say Allah blessed me with a companion though women will always be women. But you see, when you marry for the sake of Allah and for the sake of avoiding evil, you'll sure have peace and joy. We do have crises but I'm telling you, our parents have never called us to settle quarrels or invited us for a talk about settling scores. My wife is the understanding type and I thank Allah for that.

K: how did you feel welcoming your kids??

A: I cried that day. I didn't expect a twin and more so, when things happen the way you want them, you'll always have a reason to smile. I've always heard stories of how women die in labour and I was scared to death but Alhamdulillah, I'm now Abu Abdulrahman and Abdulraheem.

K: how do you combine education and home management

A: Hmmph, my wife is a Student already but due to the strike, she's still at home. I am determined to go back to school. I have only my O level with me. I wrote the just concluded JAMB. Going back to school is for learning's sake and to broaden my horizon. Our mothers have been wonderful. They came to help look after our babies and it's been a relief for us. One thing is Allah made things easy for us as a young couple. Home management is not for the weak for it requires financial, psychological, and emotional uprightness. I'm someone who observes a lot and one thing you need to know about women is that you must be very patient if you want to enjoy them, especially during their periods. If you're the impatient or hostile type, marriage might be hard for you.

K: I've learned a lot, so any advice for upcoming youths that want to get married quickly like you

A: Marriage isn't a competition. What works for me may not work for you. Remember my marriage wasn't planned but with how I was brought up, I have been able to at least manage my little home. I'll just advise them to have strong financial support to avoid stories that touch. They should know themselves and marry not for marriage's sake. Patience, perseverance, and humility should be their core values. They should be open to their women but should learn to apply wisdom. Anyone going into marriage should know that he's going to meet another human entirely.

K: with all you've said, you made it clear no marriage is free of hassles but it depends on how we manage it and how we relate with our spouses.

A: Yeah and one more thing, once you get married, know the kind of person you move with. Make your wife your best companion. I pray Allah grants us steadfastness in our dealings.

K: Aameen. Thank you very much. I pray Allah's Barakah never depart from your household. Thanks for your time, we appreciate it.

A: You are welcome. It's my pleasure. Salaamualaykum warahmatullah wabarakaatuh.

K: Na'am, walaykum salaam warahmatullah wabarakaatuh.

Thank you for taking the time to read about these couples who got married unexpectedly. I hope you found their story inspiring and heartwarming.

If you are someone who is considering getting married quickly, I hope that this story has given you some insight and encouragement. Quick marriages are not for everyone, but for some, they can be a beautiful and meaningful way to begin a new chapter in their lives.

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