Make you dey put yourself first.

Plenti time e dey wen dem dey expect something from us. Dem kind things wey we no wan do but we get to do. People wey dey force their own way, their own idea on us.

E dey easy to forget oursef for this kin world wey we dey.

But, we na the architects of our own life — and if e be our life, na we go decide who we wan be and wetin we wan do.

For pesin wey sabi give, e fit hard to put yourself first, especially if you don dey used to dey think about other people and their wahala. But if we learn how to dey consciously make effort to put ourselves first, we go dey better as we dey listen to our own selves and our own needs.

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Last-last, we go don build a life wey dey focus on us — no be other people and the plenty show wey dey around us.

Here na 8 things wey you fit do to put yourself for front burner:

Weytin Dey Important Na Make You Put Mind For Yourself

Make you dey mind yoursef, take time off sometimes. Mindfulness go help you focus for "right here, right now," e go fit make you start to dey give yourself top priority.

No dey worry about all those things wey dem dey expect from you to achieve. Wetin dey wait for us for the future, e no too clear, and e no suppose dey make you dey worry right now.

The worry wey dey come from our future often dey because of the expectations wey we dey fear say we no go meet, and the people wey we dey fear say we no go fit make happy.

No dey put those expectations or those people for front, abeg. Protect your inner peace. Stay for the present moment. Put yourself for front burner.

You fit try meditate for 5 minutes for mornings, or do some journaling for evenings. I even write post wey talk about how to journal for Self Growth — e no be say e dey specifically about putting yourself first, but if you wan learn more about the different ways to use journal, you fit check am out.

Think Well

Try make you dey think well, especially before you take any decision wey concern you. For example, if your friend come ask you next time make you help am with something, ask yourself: I really want to do this or I dey do am because person dey force or disturb me?

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Think well, check if e worth your time and well-being, especially if e be something wey you no necessarily need to do.

Also, think about the things wey dey give you joy. Try bring more of those things enter your life. You fit set aside 5 minutes or more every day or one day for the week (like weekend) make you focus mainly on the things wey dey make you happy.

No Fit No

Apart from "Reflect" — if you come sabi say you no wan do wetin dem dey ask you to do, you need sabi how to talk no.

If e dey hard for you to talk no, you fit begin write one "Not-to-Do List."

Write down things wey you NO wan do — this tip dey very useful, especially if people dey always come ask you to do the same thing. This practice go help you commit to yourself because you don promise YOURSELF say you no go do am.

If something no dey useful for you and e dey give you stress by piling work on top your head, put am for your Not-to-Do List. Especially if you see say the request dey come from person.

To talk no no be rude — e be way to show yourself say you, your energy, and your time dey important.

Sabi Your Worth.

Make you sabi say your time and the work wey you dey do get value.

As you sabi this one, e go help you fit talk no more times.

To sabi your worth, you fit work on how you see yourself. Affirmations fit help you for this one.

Affirmations na positive talk wey fit help you change the way your (subconscious) mind take reason. Some fit be specific affirmations, like if one particular thing dey always weigh you down, wey no allow you put yourself first. Others fit be more general.

Try to dey Sleep.

Make sure say you dey get enough sleep. Sleep na very important for our body. E dey like one of the strong pillars for good health and happiness — and e dey essential for you to put yourself first.

This tip na especially important for people wey dey always dey work overtime.

If you dey lose sleep because you dey try please everybody and take on plenty work pass wetin you fit handle, I want make you reconsider and stop am. Your body need you, so abeg put am for front, listen to your body needs.

Plus, if you dey sleep well, you go get more energy and you go fit do work better, wey no go even need make you dey work overtime. For my own opinion, e dey rare make person get good reason to lose sleep.

Chop Well Well

Your body get power and e need energy.

Na because of our body, we fit do everything wey we dey do every day. So no ignore your body.

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Just like how sleep important, food too na one of the strong pillars for good health and happiness.

So, chop better and satisfying food. Show your body and yourself say you dey care for dem. Chop food wey you like and wey go give you energy.

Surround Yourself with Positive Vibes

The way wey things dey around us fit affect our mood. If negative things and people dey around you, you fit begin feel negative too.

To put yourself first, e fit mean say you go cut off people wey dey bad for you — e include if wetin dem dey do or wetin dem dey talk dey make you uncomfortable. When you dey interact with your friends or people for general, you suppose feel good.

Toxicity no suppose get space for your life, and you no do anything to deserve am.

If some things or some people dey make you feel negative, try to resolve am, like through talk (obviously, e no fit work with things, na people fit talk). If e no dey possible, you fit take more drastic action — cut them off.

Try surround yourself with positive things — things wey dey make you happy and people wey dey support you.

No Compare Yourself and Love Yourself Everybody get their own uniqueness, and that na wonderful thing. No need dey to dey compare yourself with other people. Dem fit be dem, and you fit be yourself!

You na special and one-of-a-kind person.

So no dey compare yourself with others and make you dey love yourself.

If you wan put yourself for front, try sabi your uniqueness. Your uniqueness come with needs wey other people fit no get — but no be reason to hide these needs. Instead, you suppose dey live am out and dey celebrate how amazing e be say you dey unique. No everybody go fit understand you, but e no wahala. Focus for your inner world and no be the outside world wey fit make us no put ourselves for front as we suppose.

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