REBUILDING YOUR LIFE

Let the emotions seep in and accept them. That’s the first step, instead of dodging them away.

When you're feeling broken, it's natural to seek solace and comfort from others. We understand the overwhelming sense of despair when it feels like the world is crumbling around you, leaving you engulfed in darkness and emptiness. During such times, the desire for consolation and care is entirely human and understandable.

There's nothing wrong with seeking support from others. However, some individuals perceive this as mere sympathy, which brings me to the essence of this post. With sympathy, there often comes a dependency, leading to a reliance on others to alleviate despair.

Yet, there are remarkable individuals who, despite enduring immense hardship and being shattered into pieces, find the strength to rebuild themselves. They take their time, embark on a journey of self-renewal, and emerge even stronger than before—all on their own. If you can navigate through life's challenges in this manner, you'll become more resilient, stronger, and better equipped to handle whatever comes your way in the future. So, how do you rebuild your life?

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All you need to do is keep breathing. Even when it feels like you've reached the end of the road, don't give up. When life's blows knock you down so hard that it seems like the ground has vanished beneath your feet and your back is against the wall, remember that the forces of life are pushing you forward, urging you to overcome these challenges. There's no going back; the only way is forward.

So, after hitting rock bottom, feeling shattered into pieces, retreating into a dark room surrounded by chaos, lying on the floor amidst the mess, give yourself that strong push. Take a deep breath and summon the courage to push through that threshold and emerge on the other side.

Ways to Rebuild Your Life

1. Embrace the Feelings

We normally tend to deny the negative emotions and run away from them. If you are already deep inside a hole of darkness with all despair, embrace it. Realise and feel the emotions. How do you feel? Sad, tearful? If so, cry. Let tears gush down till it's empty. Let the emotions seep in and accept them. That’s the first step, instead of dodging them away.

2. See the Bigger Picture

Instead of constantly dwelling on the ruins, take a step back. Can you contemplate why this is happening to you? Well, it’s actually happening for you and not to you. The divine only throws you challenges which you can pass. So, not everyone is put through the same intensity of challenges. If you are put through, time to be proud of. Surely, this might sound so crazy, especially when you are ruined so hard. But, that’s the reality. The creator only puts those favourite few through such paths who are meant to grow so strong and stable. So, surely the next step is to start rebuilding, this time taller and stronger.

3. Think of the Worse Once

Now when your mind is already swayed with all negative thoughts, let's take you a little more ahead. Think what’s the worst that can happen. Will you lose your job? Okay, next what. You will lose your loved one. The worse end – you will lose your life? We all will someday, right? So, when something is already so imperative, what is it to fear about? Think about this in a calm mind and you will realise that all your fears have jumped away.

4. Give a Shoulder Off to Those Who are Meaningless

In your life, especially when you are on the path of spiritual enlightenment, you will find a number of people who mean nothing to you. They surround you with all sorts of negativity, judgement and assumption. They can make comments, spread rumours about you or ignore you. Keep this one thing in mind: they are acting like this because they are not grown, enlightened and awakened. They are not healed and hence they act this way because of their misfortunes. This has got nothing to do with you.

Develop a thick skin – do not take their words to heart or do not let their actions bother you. Do not react or criticise their actions. Instead, make yourself so strong and stable that these do not perturb you and that you realise and accept why they are doing it.

5. Connect to Only Who are Positive and Emotionally Stable

At this part of your life, you need to connect to only those who are very positive in their outlook and emotionally stable. If you want to be alone, be it. Spend time with yourself, but only in a constructive way. If you are getting dragged into negative habits of drinking, smoking and sleeping throughout the day with pills, get yourself some fruitful company. Connect to humanity to help you rebuild yourself.

6. Be Compassionate

Show compassion to every situation. Be it the unhealed and unstable people, or something which has gone wrong. Bring compassion to the table while you deal with every single thing. This will get you out of darkness in a magical way and bring you closer to the most meaningful people in your life. This will make the best people in your tribe want to reach out and help you for reasons and in ways even you won’t believe.

7. Treat Yourself

If you have been hit and cheated, where is your fault? It has happened because it was a part of the bigger plan and got nothing to punish you. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Why don’t you give yourself a nice massage in a parlour or book some salon services for yourself? Plug in a few choicest movies, order some delicious food, turn on shady lights and enjoy your dessert. When you love and treat yourself in the best way, every single thing in this world turns in favor. It’s how you hold yourself up in the most challenging times.

8. Face It

Are there fears that trouble you to the core? Are you always terrified to face them and pray that nothing such happens? Well, you have to overcome them because if there is something you are so petrified of, it will crash you hard. So, could you identify all these points and jot them down in your journal? Now is the time to put yourself in the journey of healing, self-growth, rejuvenation, purging and renewal. So, target to heal each of such fears one by one.

9. Do it day by day with patience

Now, when you have realised where all you need to transform, handle it with care on every single day. Deal with the issues one by one with immense patience. Do not rush or force yourself. Handle yourself with care and take the growth in steps.

The true transformation isn’t overnight but with small steps added over every single day. You will see yourself change phenomenally in no time.

Now, getting back to where we all started. Not everybody can handle such rebuilds by themselves and fall victim to sympathy. If you can do nothing like it. If you cannot, no worries. Your feelings are natural for a human being and a little bit of support will do the magic.