Why You're Not Growing

I was in a conversation with a friend few days ago and he asked; "What changes would you make if you could revisit your past?” Normally, this is almost a question that has crossed our minds countless times, fueled by regret and disappointment.

But then, seeing our pasts as mistakes is not just unproductive but also harmful? It's time to transform how you see your past, and this newsletter will guide you on that journey.

See Your Past As A Life Manual

There are times when we are constantly haunted by past mistake. However, I want you to start thinking of your past as a life manual instead of a horror movie.

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Each error you’ve made is not a ghost to be feared but a lesson to be learned. It’s crucial to understand that nobody is born wise; we learn from trials, errors, and failures.

Isn’t it remarkable how a single mistake can teach you a lesson you’ll remember for a lifetime? The past is your personalized life manual, filled with chapters that are crucial to your growth.

Reshape your Past Narrative

“But what about the things that were done to me?” You might ask. Well, that’s where reshaping your narrative comes in.

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Let me be clear, I’m not suggesting you rewrite or ignore your past traumas. Instead, I propose to reframe them as catalysts for resilience and strength. Your hardships didn’t break you; they molded you into the strong person you are today. Was it a pleasant journey? No.

But isn’t a diamond formed under pressure? Your past did not weaken you; it empowered you, fortified you, and turned you into a diamond. Isn’t it time you start appreciating your shine?

Acceptance

Someone once sent me a message and said: “Kaatib, I have lived a bad life. I have made grave mistakes. How do I stop blaming myself?” Here's what told him; “It’s natural to beat yourself up for past errors, but that’s where acceptance comes into play.

Acceptance doesn’t mean you’re content with what happened; it means you’re ready to free yourself from the shackles of guilt and regret.

It’s about acknowledging that you cannot change the past, but you can control your present and future. Do you realize how powerful that makes you?

New Lens for the Past

Imagine a life where you look back and feel proud of how far you’ve come, rather than feeling regret.

A life where you appreciate the highs and lows, the successes and failures, the laughter and the tears. Sounds dreamy? It’s entirely possible, and it starts with changing the way you perceive your past.

Remember, your past is not a movie of regrets that keep replaying; it’s a life manual that helps you navigate through life. It’s not about the traumas that broke you, but about the resilience that built you. It’s about accepting that you cannot change what happened but can shape what’s to come.

It’s time to shatter the old lens and wear the new one. The one that lets you view your past as a wellspring of wisdom, strength, and resilience. Isn’t it time you start cherishing your journey, each twist and turn, each stumble and rise, every setback and comeback?

Now, look back at your past, but this time, through a new lens. How does it look? I assure you, it’s nothing short of a masterpiece. Because guess what, you’re not a product of your past, but the painter of your future.

And this article was just the beginning. It’s up to you now, to turn this beginning into a beautiful journey of self-love, acceptance, and growth.

So, how about starting now? After all, there’s no better time than the present to change the way we perceive our past.